One of the most important things, in my experience, when in an adversarial relationship, is to understand, and, quite often, to respect my opponent. I need to understand why they are doing what they do, so I can make plans to counter them. Often, I can find ways to defuse the conflict, by negotiating compromises.
A pithy way to put it, is if you want to understand rats, talk to an exterminator.
A pithy way to put it, is if you want to understand rats, talk to an exterminator.