[abnercoimbre]

Some practical advice I gave a good friend yesterday, who is frustrated by the constant bailing from people to go touch grass with him:

1. Increase frequency of informal communication. For example if your hangout is a monthly coding club, you might casually message participants once or twice a week. “Holy smokes Jenny, this HN thread reminded me of you.”

2. Create convenient little group DMs (call it “Bob’s Coding Club”) and add in the people you like to hang out with.

This way, even if you invite someone privately, this person is well aware you hang out with others; they'll worry you can gossip if they bail too much (even though you won't, but fear of getting ostracized is a typical human trait and therefore a helpful forcing function.)

Source: I run meetups [0] for programmers, many of whom are recovering social media addicts.

[0] https://handmadecities.com/meetups

[conception]

Also, if organizing a group thing, get one or two people privately to say that they will go and then announce to the group that the three of you are going and if anybody else wants to come rather than just you are going and to see if anybody wants to come. If there’s already buy in, you’re much more likely to get people to show up.

[munificent]

Abner!

It's no surprise that you have excellent advice on how to socialize more. :)