[david-gpu]

Ironically, I worked really hard for a number of years precisely to ensure that my family would be financially safe if something happened to me -- something like what happened to my own father. The difference was that I quit my well-paying job as soon as we had enough to sustain a modest lifestyle.

I will admit that at times I was seduced by the illusion of status, so I get why some people get trapped in that work-first mindset, but it was a very shallow mirage. Just look at your spouse and children and ask whether they would rather have more money, or a more present husband & father.

If my wife asked me to work harder to make more money, I would question my choice to marry her. But she didn't, she was supportive both while I was working and when I decided to quit. She could see the price I was paying for that salary.

[paulcole]

> Just look at your spouse and children and ask whether they would rather have more money, or a more present husband & father.

But you yourself are saying that if you disagree with your spouse's assessment of the situation (in the hypothetical) you'd consider divorcing her.

You really just want someone to validate the decision you've made rather than challenge it.

[david-gpu]

Let's take a step back and understand the context of this discussion. This isn't a forum where unemployed people talk about poverty finance. This is a place primarily made by and for tech bros. Said tech bros are far more likely to fall into the category of "workaholic overachiever" than "unmotivated NINJA" [0]. My comments in this thread are written in that context.

As for the rest, I will take your kind insights to heart. If you want to work longer hours because your spouse asks you to make more money, that's your own choice to make. I thankfully didn't have to face that situation.

[0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/No_income,_no_asset#No_income,...

[paulcole]

I mean you're the one who said, "Ask the kid. Or the spouse."

But you're just saying "Ask the kid. Or the spouse... As long as they say what I want to hear."

You may feel that the thing you want to hear is objectively "right" but it isn't.

> If you want to work longer hours because your spouse asks you to make more money, that's your own choice to make.

I don't know why you think that would be my choice? My point is that I don't ask people for input if my mind is already made up.