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by inemesitaffia 333 days ago
Masculinity is fine in all it's forms.
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Being a dick isn't masculinity though. In fact the Inuits consider it childish.

https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2019/03/13/6855333...

Anger is a feeling, it's internal. Reacting externally with anger is a choice to be a dick. If you can't tell the difference, you have some growing up to do. Linus did.

Like I said, it's fine in all it's forms. You claimed it's toxic. Now, it's not masculinity. If it's not, why relate it to masculinity at all?
The whole thread is about overt display of anger being linked with masculinity (with or without the label of "toxic"). You said "Masculinity is fine in all it's forms." It is reasonable to assume that you meant childish displays of anger was included in masculinity and that you didn't consider it toxic at all.
I consider masculinity completely fine. I consider the idea of toxic masculinity used to describe actions men take as an intentionally gendered misnomer.

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=44630887

But being a castrated yes man is not masculine either.
"No" does not need to be said in anger. Being firm has nothing to do with being castrated. Maybe overt anger itself is a sign of insecurity and insufficiency. Do you think Linus has been castrated now that he behaves more like an adult?