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by Rebelgecko 338 days ago
How did they have any time left to be a parent?
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> I returned early from my paternity leave to help participate in the Codex launch.

Obvious priorities there.

That part made me do a double take. I hope his child never learns they were being put second.
It's just a google search away.
Many people are bad parents. Many are bad at their jobs. Many at bad at both. At least this guy is good at his job, and can provide very well for his family.
If you think being good at your job is providing for your family, you've been raised with some bad parenting examples.
It'll be of little comfort to the kid.
It is all relative. A workaholic seems pretty nice when compared to growing up with actual objectively bad parents, workaholics plus: addicts, perpetually drunk, gamblers, in jail, no shows for everything you put time into, competing with you when obtaining basic skills, abusing you for being a kid, etc.

There are plenty worse than that. The storied dramatic fiction parent missing out on a kid's life is much better than what a lot of children have.

Yet, all kids grow up, and the greatest factor determining their overall well-being through life is socioeconomic status, not how many hours a father was present.

Im very interested in that topic and haven’t made up my mind about what really counts in parenting. You have sources for the claim about well-being (asking explicitly about mental well-being and not just material well-being) being more influenced by socioeconomic status and not so much by parental absence?

About the guy: I think if it’s just a one time thing it’s ok but the way he presents himself gives reason for doubt

This is why the children of rich people are famously well adjusted... /s
They were showered with assets for being a lucky individual in a capital driven society, time is interchangeable for wealth, as evidenced throughout history.

This guy is young. He can experience all that again, if it is that much of a failure, and he really wants to.

Sure, there are ethical issues here, but really, they can be offset by restitution, lets be honest.

He cannot experience time with his kid again. In any case he's on a fast track to divorce rn.
What a fabulous payout she is in for.
All those wasted years.
How did they have any time to create the child in the first place?