[yorpinn]

You will have deeper and better conversations if you know what questions to ask.

Things that work for you might not work for others. Communication and connection is a need, not a vice.

The idea that you can tell them that their relationships aren't important is so chauvinistic and inappropriate. You ought to take a step back and reflect before commenting further, that's out of line.

[ericmay]

You’ll have even deeper connections if you have more things to talk about and genuine curiosity about the novelty of those things instead of “already knowing the questions to ask” - good lord are we robots or something?

> The idea that you can tell them that their relationships aren't important is so chauvinistic and inappropriate. You ought to take a step back and reflect before commenting further, that's out of line.

Save this stuff for someone who cares because it’s not me.

[yorpinn]

There is no evidence their curiosity is ingenuine, that's your image of them but it doesn't have a basis in reality. It's based in your biases and preconceptions about social media.

I'll refrain from criticizing you for being a chauvinist if you agree to take that behavior someplace else, because it's not for this community. Save that for some toxic no-holds-barred social media. Maybe think on whether your actions are contributing to the social media environment you decry.

[ericmay]

> I'll refrain from criticizing your for being a chauvinist if you agree to take that behavior someplace else, because it's not for this community. Save that for some toxic no-holds-barred community like Twitter.

No thanks. You don’t get to define what is toxic behavior nor do you speak for this community or others.

Also, grab a dictionary. Your usage of chauvinist here is incorrect.

> There is no evidence their curiosity is ingenuine, that's your image of them but it doesn't have a basis in reality.

They already said they need information about events to have something to talk about. That’s not how conversations work, nor is it how you establish new friendships or build and maintain existing relationships.

> It's based in your biases and preconceptions about social media.

Well they are biases (yours is showing) but they’re not preconceptions, they are just conceptions.

[yorpinn]

You don't get to define your behavior as nontoxic, either. I'm not arguing about what words mean.

[ericmay]

I didn’t define my behavior one way or another. I said I don’t care what you think about it.

[yorpinn]

I don't believe you, but it doesn't really matter. (I'm happy to admit I have a small investment in helping you see my perspective, for what it's worth. It's part of my human need for connection.)