Well, when you get scandals like Facebook trying to get patient data [0], Cambridge Analytica [1], TikTok spying on reporters [2], and so very many more [3], it is rather hard to see incompetence over malice.
I absolutely believe that there are people at those companies, trying to rein in the corporate behemoth so it doesn't squash its own legs. However, evidence looks like they're... Losing that particular battle.
The corporations still haven't learnt to respect individuals - they're just resources. [4]
Until a corporation acknowledges that safety comes with... Simply not spying on everyone... The risk in trusting them isn't going to be one that people want to take. Yes. These are hard problems. So don't make them a problem you have to face.
I am inclined to align with you on Meta, I didn't work there. But again, goes back to my point about treating "FAANG" like a monolith. Meta's handling of these things doesn't say anything to me about Apple's handling of these things, but most people do extrapolate it.