[voskresenie]

Because she's attractive and has plenty of time to have kids, so he doesn't have to rush into getting married and having children with her. Your question also presupposes that there's some reason that he should prefer or limit himself to women his own age, but there's literally no reason to take that as the default.

The real question is, why do you care? What happened to not shaming people for their personal sexual and romantic choices?

One thing I've noticed--there are two types of people who get upset at older men dating younger women: young single men and old single women. It's almost as if the criticism is thinly-veiled jealousy, rather than any sort of principled critique.

[nchmy]

Its sad that can't see why this is utterly bizzare, deluded/no recognition of how reality is, and likely creepy.

Moreover, at no point did you consider HER in your comment - do you think a 22yr old wants some 38 year old (of any sort) approaching her?

Ps I'm literally a late 30s, contendedly-single man - for personal reasons, not because of "how women are these days". If he was my friend (and someone so pathetic never would be), I'd have rapidly intervened as well, or admonished him when i heard about it. And then, tried to help him sort his life out.

[voskresenie]

>Its sad that can't see why this is utterly bizzare, deluded/no recognition of how reality is, and likely creepy.

This is all just a verbose way of saying 'it makes me feel icky'. Verbalize your issue with it, or keep your feelings to yourself. Lots of things make me feel icky, and I'm quite certain you'd call me mean things for many of them. Difference is, I'm not so self-obsessed as to think my personal disgust should matter to anyone other than me.

>Moreover, at no point did you consider HER in your comment - do you think a 22yr old wants some 38 year old (of any sort) approaching her?

She says, 'sorry, not interested', and moves on. It's not a big deal. Walking up to a person and asking them out doesn't require a person's consent, nor is it some terribly traumatic thing. In certain cases, it can be a minor faux pas, eg if her body language indicated she didn't want him to approach her, but it's still not a big deal so long as when she rejects him, he leaves her alone.

I didn't consider her in my comment because we know literally nothing about her other than her age and sex, and there's no reason to assume from those details alone that she wouldn't be open to going on a date with him. I could imagine it being uncomfortable for her, but that's not something anyone can know in advance (you do realize there are plenty of young women who date significantly older guys, right? it's not the norm, but it's also not exactly rare), and there's nothing so outrageous about asking a woman out that a person needs to avoid it in order to cater to the portion of women who would be uncomfortable with it. I am uncomfortable with lots of interactions I have, but that doesn't mean the other party is doing anything wrong. In fact, I've been uncomfortable being asked out before, by people who I believed should realize I wouldn't be interested in them -- but again, that doesn't mean they did anything wrong. This all has the air of nobility taking offense that a commoner would dare to speak to them.

>And then, tried to help him sort his life out.

Respectfully, a single almost-40 y/o man isn't in a position to help anyone sort their life out, particularly not one who gets upset over a grown man asking out a grown woman.

[nchmy]

Lol. Good luck to you

[labrador]

A lot of single women hoping to start families would be happy to have a tall, gainfully employed and hard working man take an interest in them. Your group has made rules that insure the fade out of the human race through depopulation, like Japan is experiencing.

It’s interesting that you’re in your late 30s, because you sound like the same kind of moral enforcer who publicly humiliated my son. Not protective. Performative.

You didn't ask whether the woman was harmed. You didn't ask what really happened between two people who knew each other. You rushed to frame a man who simply expressed interest as “pathetic” and “deluded.” That’s not feminism. That’s ritual purification through male scapegoating.

[nchmy]

Lol. Good luck to you all