[stronglikedan]

> that doesn't mean you can't bring some kindness and common sense to the situation

It doesn't mean you have to either. There's no social contract either way, so there's nothing to debate. Doing whatever you want is the correct thing to do regardless.

[badlibrarian]

Setting expectations is basic human decency.

[Verdex]

Setting expectations is decent. However I suspect it to be advanced human decency.

Basic human decency is probably something more along the lines of 'live and let live'.