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by tseabrooks
5046 days ago
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I'm not a member of the community in question. However, I guess I'm just in the mind that if you have problems with a person you take it up with them directly and privately (including only the people that must be involved). This was obviously a long time ago but things like this "public shaming" just seem like a one sided mud sling designed to call people out and make people feel bad (or give other people bad feelings about them) rather than a method to fix the problem. I don't want to make assumptions regarding values. Maybe we have different ideas on how to combat things like these. Maybe, our views or very similar and you thought this was the only way to make your point. Either way, bringing it back this far from the actual event (Not that your did this) only serves to dredge up old animosity instead of burying the hatchet and "Getting Shit Done". I think I'm more of the mid that the OP shouldn't be submitting what amounts to old gossip-y mud slinging articles 5 years later. |
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What your sentiment does is simply perpetuate the situation by allowing bad actors in a community to use their popularity to harm individuals, and the individuals then feel like they can't tell anyone for fear of being a "gossip" or "tattle tale".
So, if my problem with someone is between me and them, then I do keep it quiet. But in this case, no it was not kept between us, many of these people actively slandered me, and until I spoke up they did it to many other people as well.