| > I haven’t met many men who complain about dating apps and that get dates. It seems exclusive to men who cannot get matches or dates. I’m not sure what age group you’re thinking of, but in my age range (40s and 50s), I hear tons of complaints from both sides. Personally speaking as someone who gets plenty of dates, my complaints are: - Match doesn’t look like their profile, often by a lot - Actions don’t support how match presents themselves in their profile - For potentially “good” matches, I often have to work through a lot of jaded scar tissue that they’ve built up from online dating. People have doubted my name, age, residence, approximate income, goals in dating, etc. Usually these are based on bad experiences they have had in the past. - A decent number of matches are straight up dysfunctional and/or psychologically unhealthy — think unhealthy boundaries, anger issues, etc. This is often easy to spot in the initial meeting. It’s no wonder they aren’t in a long term relationship. - Some women, especially single moms, actually want FWB relationships based on their actions, but they haven’t yet admitted that to themselves. It creates awkward tensions that would be resolved if they just accepted that they more-or-less want sporadic on-demand attention and intimacy without much of the emotional and time investment that goes into a full relationship. Fwiw, I have no problem with FWBs, as long as both parties are open and honest about their intentions. - From both my male and female friends who use dating apps, the apps for folks in their 40s and 50s are largely a market for lemons — the good ones either don’t last on the app very long or don’t stay very long due to bad experiences, and the “regulars” are simply unlikely to get into a long-term relationship. |
People presenting one thing and being another is common in every medium. For your age demo, maybe it’s more common for the women to show old/misleading photos. But, your demo is a much smaller one than the typical 18-35 demographic where most dating happens.