[bradlys]

Women frequently complain about the behavior of men - period. I have an endless list of women who have complained about the men who have approached them in real life. Look at how Bumble turned out - it ended up behaving just like every other app because women didn't actually want anything different. Women complain all the time about men's behaviors - regardless of the medium through which they're interacting. It is a filtering issue. Women rarely have trouble attracting men - they have trouble figuring out what men they are shown are best for them. (In all mediums)

Whether or not you're "told" you're attractive or "are" attractive is the difference here. If you're not getting matches, you're not attractive. It is that simple. The amount of times you will hear anyone be called ugly by someone they enjoy being around will be near zero - regardless of how physically unattractive that person is. Try to remember the last time you told someone that they were ugly even though you thought they weren't physically attractive. You probably can't remember. Yet, you've surely complimented people and can remember that.

Maybe they worked in the past because you were considered physically attractive then and aren't now due to age, fitness, etc. Very often I hear from men who are in their 40's talking about the "good ol' days" of OKC and how all dating apps now are "bad and no good". They're ignoring that they've gained 15% body fat, are bald, sagging skin, and so on.