| My experience has overwhelmingly been that people object to being told that they can't just ask the question they want - not to the specific words used. We don't allow anyone to use insults; we expect each other to be patient; we use our "please"s and "thank you"s in comments (even as we remove them from questions) - and if you see otherwise, please flag it; moderators take code of conduct violations seriously. But none of this seems to make a difference. And people come to the site with expectations about politeness that simply aren't conducive to getting people to stop doing things they aren't supposed to do: https://meta.stackoverflow.com/questions/366889
https://meta.stackoverflow.com/questions/368072
https://meta.stackoverflow.com/questions/373801
https://meta.stackoverflow.com/questions/334870 Meanwhile, a major reason why people aren't required to explain in a comment why they downvoted a question, is because of the history we've had with downright vitriolic replies from OPs who seem uninterested in the rules: https://meta.stackoverflow.com/questions/357436
https://meta.stackoverflow.com/questions/352575 Rudeness happens all around, really: https://meta.stackoverflow.com/questions/326494 Related: https://meta.stackoverflow.com/a/309018/523612 (And, of course, all of this really blows up once assumptions start getting made about who is or isn't especially sensitive: https://meta.stackoverflow.com/questions/366665) |