[lucb1e]

To be completely fair to the person you're responding to, they're talking about pages that take 20 seconds to load. On a regular website that hopes to get visitors from search engines, say, that is indeed insane and the fix is not to squeeze out 5% by fine tuning, the fix is to re-architect the thing

I don't mind people asking why it is this slow (whether I can't or why I don't re-architect it) or suggest fixes, but as the sibling comment to yours (from u/monooso) put it well, it would be nice if one does not assume that I'm an incompetent fool. The person also doesn't seem to read what I explained before suggesting more of the same in another reply. Thanks for adding your comment as well, I appreciate the sentiment. Even if I'm not sure if it applies in this case, it definitely applies to other things I do (I may have too many hobby projects running on that server.. ^^)

[Breza]

Well said! At work, I deal with these kinds of issues, and they get messy. I've spent hours this week discussing and debating table indexes and caching parameters for a system that's been running for fifteen years but we think we can improve. There's a diminishing return to putting tons of your time into every little thing, especially when a project is not your livelihood. It sounds like you've taken a thoughtful approach to your system architecture. If it works for you, it works!