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First and foremost, I am sorry that you experienced abuse. That is never okay. I will not pretend to act like I understand the depths of forgiveness, or agree that it is possible for certain things. Abuse should never be justified under religious teaching- period.

From the Catholic Church's point of view, there should be no worship except to God. Not parents, not saints, not statues: God only. Likewise, it is certainly a mortal sin for a parent to fail in their responsibility towards education of their children- the Catechism of the Catholic Church (the official text that comprehensively explains doctrine, beliefs, and teachings) specifically points that the first steps toward bearing witness to that responsibility is by creating a home where tenderness, forgiveness, respect, fidelity, and disinterested service are the rule.