[timcobb]

This reminded me of the time ~10 years ago I was at an event featuring Richard Stallman, and he started by say that no one was allowed to post photos of him on FB. This was to a room of hundreds of people, mostly hackers. I thought, "damn, if there's an uphill battle somewhere, this guy will find it!"

[delusional]

Knowing Richard Stallman he didn't ask for you not to upload them to Facebook but rather "Disgracebook", "FaceBurgler" or something like that.

[procaryote]

You allowed to have boundaries even if there's a few assholes who won't respect them

[accrual]

In this example RMS made a request to the audience. A boundary would be something like "if you post photos of me to Facebook, you won't be invited to my conferences" or "if you do X, I won't interact with you". Might be difficult to enforce, but that's on the person making the boundary.

[reverendsteveii]

That's the defining feature of a boundary: you don't actually tell people what to do. You just tell them what you'll do. "Don't talk to me like that" is an ask, "Talk to me like that again and I'll leave" is a boundary.

[II2II]

On the flip side: if I were to attend an event featuring Richard Stallman, I would rather it have a no-photos policy. I am interested in many of his ideas, but I have no desire to be associated with his ideas in their entirety or any public figure. Unfortunately, too many people believe that A implies B.

I also hate drama, and would much rather lead a quiet life as a person no one likes than an interesting life who some people dislike.

[timcobb]

People will dislike you arbitrarily anyway. Can't get around that it seems in my experience, but maybe I'm bad at laying low

[II2II]

True. Maybe dislike was a poor choice of words on my part, but I can't think of anything more suitable. The main thing I want to avoid is drama. If someone dislikes me and that dislike doesn't go any further than letting me know, that's fine. It's their choice. When their actions start affecting my life, that's not fine.

[immibis]

Are we even sure they're people? Something like 90% of Reddit content is now LLM bots.

[lostmsu]

In US, if that was a private event, his request is legally binding.

[malfist]

Unless they signed NDAs to get into the room with him, it's not. You're welcome to share the legal code, or a court case that proves me wrong though.

[paxys]

Unless you agreed to the terms before buying your ticket, no, it isn't legally binding.

[lostmsu]

I may have been wrong in that RMS does not have that power, but the property owner does. Not sure if this is a universal rule or not.

[amanaplanacanal]

I think the only legal recourse the property owner has is to kick you out.

[kube-system]

RMS prefers his events to be open to the public

[lvass]

What if entering that room was free as in beer?

[bobismyuncle]

How would this work in practice if it was litigated? Wouldn't you need proof that this was expressly communicated to the specific individual that violated and that they did so knowingly? Seems like it probably isn't enforceable...

[lostmsu]

In this case I think it might be, because if the event was recorded presumably so was the request to not share.

[immibis]

According to what law?