[rudasn]

I had very similar concerns when I was building my sideproject.

But I was determined to ship, so once the code was deployable (the bear minimum, nginx with ssl setup) I pushed to my VPS and posted a link on HN. It was late Sunday night, was very tired, but just wanted to get real user feedback. But I also knew the chances of anyone seeing the link and actually giving feedback were slim, so I tried not to worry too much about it. The important bit was taking the first step and shipping something. Everything else follows from that.

So, my advice is to put it out there and invite people that could give you helpful feedback. Avoid toxic communities as that will only add to the stress.

Best of luck!