[jahbrewski]

Are you American, by chance? I am, and this resonates with something a Japanese woman recently told me.

I asked her what she thought some of the negative traits of Americans are, and here’s the first thing she said:

“You bounce around too much. From thing to thing to thing.”

[losteric]

We (Americans) have this culture of individualistic self-invention, consumer identity as a lifestyle (intellectual/artistic pursuits included), and the felt experience that worth/belonging/security is contingent on performance or achievement. Plus struggles with emotional intelligence and trauma (esp. among men), perpetuating that internalized conditionality.

I know so many people that got burned out and around their 30s, went off trying to do everything all at once (me too)… dancing around the hole.

The mixing of all of the above feels more uniquely American. Not that Japan (or others) don’t have some of the facets, like aspects of meritocracy (arguably balanced by other cultural values).

[jahbrewski]

I've found myself finding more satisfaction and joy out of doing fewer things, but going deeper. Instead of picking up a new sport, I've gone deeper into running. Instead of learning a new instrument, I'm going deeper into the piano. Instead of re-inventing my business, I'm doubling down on what's worked in the past.

It's not the right mindset for every stage of life, but it's working well at the moment!