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>you are fed up with specific positions/companies that are a poor fit for you

Agree. With no degree, but a skill and interest in programming coupled with experience, you're actually in a pretty good place. Find a company that doesn't suck. They seem elusive but they exist. They might not pay as well, but you can get through the day without counting the seconds until it's over.

Shit companies are always hiring because they have high turnover, so it would seem like all companies are shit, but they are not.

Maybe get out of NYC. If you are in the straight tech industry, think about doing tech in another industry, they all need it.

FWIW, there will always be times of stress in tech, but if the place is actually well managed, those times would be minimized.