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by bityard 421 days ago
I wouldn't worry about taking every single one of these literally. A rule like this is meant as a compass bearing, not a precise set of directions to a perfect life.

Besides, it's totally possible to negotiate in good faith without lying. Professional negotiators actively advise against lying because A) you might get caught B) it's harder to remember a lie than the truth later on. (This is how a lot of criminals get caught.) If someone wants to know something you don't want them to know, you don't have to answer. Tell them it's not relevant or change the topic.

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> Tell them it's not relevant

So, lie then, is what you should do instead of lying, in order to have a good faith negotiation.

Ps a lot of corporations commit crimes. They are professional liars, they don’t lose track and when they do get caught (hardly anyone is looking), they pay a fine and do it again.“Cost of doing business” if you will. Plus your common criminal usually isn’t able to get politicians elected by contributing hundred of millions to their campaigns, etc.

I feel that "don't lie, just omit the truth" totally misses the point. It's "rules lawyering", not being an adult as the author seems to envision it. At least that's my reading.
"Don't lie, just omit the truth" is not even close to what I said. (It could be argued that putting words in someone's mouth is a form of lying...)

If you ask me for some information that I don't want to share and I say I don't want to answer that, or it's not important, that is not lying by omission. Or lying at all. That's me protecting my privacy. Giving an incorrect or misleading answer instead would be lying.

Yes yes, you are very knowledgeable about the precise rules of what is lying and what is not. I tip my hat to you.