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by 0n0n0m0uz 419 days ago
I am an introvert who prefers solitude to human interaction as my base mode. I find most interactions to be draining and unnecessary. They basically only increase or serve as a source of stress while offering nothing meaningful that somehow improves my mental state. I probably had this tendency but never had enough solitude to really recognize how much I preferred it. It is actually addicting and almost impossible to go back. I understand that in terms of social or financial success it’s not conducive or beneficial but in terms of spiritual growth it is. Even for me it’s certainly a useful skill to be able to connect with others and share experiences or material goods. I see many articles about a loneliness crisis so I guess for most people solitude is actually an unwanted state of affairs that causes them distress.
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For the first 22 years of my life I was spending my hours in crowded school buildings. It turns out that most of my productivity happens in solitude. Learning through doing and self study. But now that I finally don't have that terrible rigid school structure anymore (for over a decade), the tables have turned. I am in complete isolation for entire days, most days. I found that I do want and need a bit of interaction, but not much is needed, and certainly not in the way that school provided that.
Yeah, I'm totally equipped with the empathy and wit to make friends and I do it sort of naturally at work, but whenever I change jobs and look back at the friendships I'm like, why did I bother. Solitude is so much better now that we have computers to interact with costlessly.