[johnisgood]

That sounds extremely toxic. I would not even consider such people friends to begin with.

[3np]

I think it's a mistake beliving you can judge each persons character accurately from the beginning when entering a new social context.

[johnisgood]

I agree, although I had luck with that in my life. I know who my real friends are. I do not have many, but I feel blessed with the friends I have.