[sightbroke]

> “Porn trains.” For the past few decades, it has trained men to see women as objects—as things to silence, restrain, fetishize, or brutalize. But it has trained women, too. In 2013, the social psychologist Rachel M. Calogero found that the more women were prone to self‐objectification—the defining message of porn and aughts mass media—the less inclined they were toward gender-based activism and the pursuit of social justice. This, to me, goes a long way toward explaining what happened to women and power in the early 21st century. For decades, male supremacy was being coded into our culture, in ways that were both outlandish and so subtle, they were hard to question

I find that to be a highly suspect claim that it's porn of the last century or past few decades that's been both objectifying women and encoded "male supremacy" into our culture.

That just seems like a wilful desire to ignore history and makes it really hard for me take these generalizations that "porn is bad" and "male sexual desires are bad" discussions seriously.

[quantified]

Oh man, porn taught me to take my partner's desires first. The ethos was to maximize partners' pleasure. It can be a good influence as well if properly done.