[jvanderbot]

I'm lucky that my kiddos accept deals.

"Yeah, vegetables are kinda yucky, how about just the corn, then we can go play after"

I also feel like "deals" are basically how the world works. Positive and negative deals clearly stated.

[sitkack]

I made too many deals and am now weaning us off (greatly reduced) of deals, the danger is everything becomes transactional.

It is also important to set norms around expectations that don't have a tangible reward.

[layer8]

It’s better to think of it as compromise rather than a deal. Of course, it needs to be a reasonable compromise.

[sitkack]

That is a good point, but the fact that it is a compromise should be communicated with the child, so it doesn't feel like an exchange.

[layer8]

A compromise is an exchange IMO, it’s just that it’s a give and a take for both sides, and there should be a sense of fairness to it.