[heresie-dabord]

> I recommended learning how to separate your value from your employer. It's not easy but it's necessary.

Agreed, it is necessary to make deprogramming oneself easier — less painful — to the extent that one has come to identify with the work and/or culture and/or employer.

But it is also exhausting to maintain a façade of allegiance to a harshly indifferent power structure.

[delichon]

To me my employer is my customer. We don't require each other's allegiance, just an ongoing mutually beneficial transaction and good will. When either fails for either party it's time to move along. Devotion isn't part of the arrangement.

[damnitbuilds]

Similarly:

I got badly burnt in a relationship once.

After that I promised myself not to get hurt again. If you don't love each other any more, accept that, and walk away.

Worked for me, and I stayed friends with almost all my ex-es after that.