[ryangittins]

> ...getting insecure or jealous of all the other social connections that your extrovert friends have. There’s an asymmetry there that can feed lots of insecurities.

I wouldn't sweat this too much. Mathematically, most people have fewer friends than their friends have.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendship_paradox

[manmal]

I don’t fully understand how this is a paradox. I guess it’s based on the fact that there are „super nodes“ in human social networks, where one person has many friends, while most others don’t? Or is there anything more to it?

[arduanika]

It's the more expansive definition of paradox, meaning something like "counterintuitive result". In expectancy, a randomly chosen person has an average number of friends. You might therefore think that a random person and their friends, all of whom seem randomly chosen, would have the same expected number of friends. But you'd be wrong, because the friends weren't random after all: they had at least one friend. Not a logical paradox, but a surprising fact.

[manmal]

I wouldn’t have expected that everyone has as many friends as themselves, hence my confusion. Thanks for taking the time to respond though.

[BobbyTables2]

Found the EE!

[robocat]

The counter-intuitiveness is partially to averaging. Averages often deceive our intuitions.

[fellowniusmonk]

There is a fun but rare kind of humanist that doesn't think they are special but are curious about others, see the value in randos they meet and thinks that _others_ are special and they really _listen_, you know?

Pretty sure its just that they all have superior statistical intuition.