[sirtaptap]

Taking "thanks" out of a conversation between exactly two people is very different. It's very personal and can easily be seen as rude.

But SO isn't that; don't treat it like that. SO questions may well be read by thousands of people. The "thanks" is useless to 99% of them. It's like signatures. Sure it seems neat when you do it once. But when literally thousands of people have to read it on thousands of posts...please stop!

[bangbang]

When someone takes the time to help me with a problem. I will thank them.

SO is powered by people and people appreciate appreciation.

[Pfhreak]

And the mechanism for appreciation on Stack Overflow is not thanks. It's +1 votes and selected answers. Those appreciate mechanisms drive the site and ensure the person who helped you helps many other people.

[gte910h]

And there is no reason to remove that social lubrication because you're of a different opinion. If they're not doing the +1 and selected answer, then tell them to, but don't stop them from being decent human beings as well, even if you'd prefer the world that way.

[JeremyBanks]

Leave a comment, then delete it after you're confident the recipient will have seen it. (A few hours or days depending on activity.) You and they get to feel good, but the clutter isn't left around for other users.

This is what I often do. It is a tolerated behaviour, even if some people aren't thrilled with it.

[3JPLW]

I give my thanks through comments. I think that makes sense given their model -- the question and answer are the straightforward facts about the problem intended for future googlers and posterity. The comments are little meta-data intended for the asker and answerers.

[finnw]

If someone posts a helpful answer to your question, it's fine to say "thanks" in a comment (and the mods will not remove that.)