[galfarragem]

I believe having a partner with directly opposing political views is unsustainable. Partners with adjacent political views may be manageable, or even preferable to a fully aligned one, but those with directly opposing views are a constant source of drama and tension in your life. Political views often reflect deeply held values and beliefs.

[basisword]

>> those with directly opposing views are a constant source of drama and tension in your life

I don't think this is true at all. The vast majority of people largely ignore politics, cast their vote, and move on with their lives. It's completely fine to have different political views if you both act like normal reasonable people. We see a lot of the 'kick, scream, and cry' types on both side in the media. In the real world, most people have more important things to be getting on with.

[diggan]

> It's completely fine to have different political views if you both act like normal reasonable people.

Yes, this is true, you can have different political views and still be friends/lovers/partners/whatver.

What parent said though was "directly opposing political views", which I'd also agree with is inviting trouble, as it'll leak out in constant tensions and frictions. Simple things like "We shouldn't drive as much as we currently do" can lead to heavy argumentation if the underlying reasoning cannot be understood by both parties.

In real life, people might not speak about parties or political figures, but their everyday actions are driven by their values and beliefs, which also ends up reflected by who they vote for. Politics is everywhere, even where people don't speak of it directly.

[basisword]

>> We shouldn't drive as much as we can do

I wouldn't consider this a political view. It's a lifestyle choice based on personal beliefs. Two people can be fully behind the idea we need to do something about climate change and have different ideas on how that should be done. And I think that's part of the problem in recent times - instead of politics being about the big ideas and how a country is run it's become about small personal choices. If a person has heavy arguments with a partner about how much/little they drive I would say they've got an issue with a need to control others, rather than just a strong political opinion.

[diggan]

> Two people can be fully behind the idea we need to do something about climate change and have different ideas on how that should be done

I'm not sure if you purposefully ignore what I wrote directly after what you quoted, "if the underlying reasoning cannot be understood by both parties". If a partner would discuss things like this in real life, I'd say this partner might have an issue with discussing in good faith with others.

My point was that it'll lead to friction if you disagree about what "big ideas" are worthwhile to try to implement or not.

[HPsquared]

Political views can change over time though. It can be unsustainable in the way of "one or both people moderates their political views".

[Jensson]

That will leave a large group of people without any partners, since men and women vote very differently.

[pixl97]

Then so be it, if your views keep you from finding a partner then maybe you should start thinking about compromise rather than falling deeper into extremism.

But, this is also why one political party in the US tends to vote against things like no fault divorce and other questionable policies regarding womens rights.