[littlekey]

>isn't just about being able to borrow cup of sugar

this in particular is interesting to me because you used it to illustrate the minimum level of neighborly engagement, but I think many of us don't even reach that level. I for one would never think of asking my neighbor for cooking ingredients; in fact the idea of going over and knocking on their door for any purpose is almost inconceivable to me unless there was a medical emergency.

Not saying my mindset is right or even healthy, but that's how it is. There's a lot of work to be done.