[ericmcer]

Yeah totally agree, the fluff is important.

The "fluff" is a careful orchestration driven by our desire to maintain social standing. 5,000 years ago rejection by the tribe meant death, and that fear is subconsciously influencing all our communications and actions. That is why a bullet point email of what is wrong with a coworker is not acceptable, it lacks all the nuance that allows you to read into the other persons past perceptions and future intents.

[danielbln]

There is a huge range of cultural influence though. Americans, on average, have quite a different communication to let's say Germans or Scandinavians. Fluff will be present everywhere, but to vastly different degrees.