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by makeitdouble
458 days ago
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> Not that there’s anything else I would want to do! That's the key part IMHO. If you're happy with the balance you landed on, why not. I think some kids really benefit from the traditional Asian style, and they reach levels that would be hard to reach otherwise. The main issue is not all kids are in that boat, and they'll need to be miserable for a pretty long time before the parents change course and try alternative approaches (if they ever do). Only the parents can decide if they want to force the square peg into a perfect round hole, and if the kid will thank them later or hate them for life (or jump through a window, shortening the waiting time). Even in Asia not all parents want to take that risk. |
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But I would go further and say that lots of american kids who feel aimless would be happier if they were raised in a culture that tells them what to do and then socially rewards them for doing it. The efficient market fairy is a bad way of thinking about how the economy works, but it’s also a bad way of thinking about how people work.
I agree that, in asian society, some portion of kids suffer from being a square peg that parents try to shove in a round hole. But I think Americans overestimate the share of the population that’s square pegs, and underestimate the share of the population that would be happier being told what shape they are and what hole they fit into.