[marsten]

My shocking 23andMe story:

I reached out to a guy on 23andMe that was a DNA relative (2nd cousin) and said hi. Curious how we were related, I gave him some family names going several generations back, and asked if any of them rang a bell in his family history.

He responded quickly and said no, they did not.

Then a few weeks later I get another response. He said that one of the names had faintly rung a bell, and when he dug into it, it turned out that was the name of his mother's boss for much of her career as a secretary. His heart sank when he realized it. He and his siblings did genetic tests and confirmed that he, the youngest, was only a half-sibling. Both of the parents were deceased so there's no way to know what really happened.

After dropping that bomb in the poor guy's lap I stopped using the DNA Relatives feature.

[frankish]

Personally, I'd prefer to find out the truth in these cases.