[astrange]

> Live your own life to the fullest. Don't even worry about dating / the apps.

This doesn't work. I mean, it seems to work for you because you travel a lot or live somewhere where a lot of outdoor hobbies are possible.

For nerdy men, if you're not careful about hobbies you're going to pick some where you will literally never meet a woman into it, or else only strange or highly autistic ones who aren't good for you, and this isn't always obvious ahead of time.

I don't mean anything stereotypical about this either. Like "women aren't into video games or anime" isn't true, but they're not into it the way you might be into it. (In my experience they're healthier about it and like creating/producing things themselves, whereas men like complaining about them online. But this part is a bit stereotypical.)

You do need to know what women who are your type are into, and you need to genuinely be that kind of person or at least be able to appreciate it.

[_huayra_]

You've definitely called me out: I currently live in an area where I can do a bunch of different hobbies year round for the most part, and happen to enjoy them.

I totally agree that if one goes all in for their D&D hobby, meeting women directly is not likely, but it's totally possible to connect to other people via that hobby (e.g. to the dungeon master's single female friend, etc).

I guess the point I was trying to make is don't singular focus on "finding a girlfriend" and then contort oneself into doing things they don't find enjoyable for extended periods (e.g. cooking classes, volunteering with pets, salsa dancing. Those are great hobbies, but too often my awkward male friends begrudgingly do those even though they hate them because they think "that's where the women are").