[quadragenarian]

Are you a caring person? Do you find yourself good with children or animals? Empathy and being able to take care of another life is one of the most important characteristics if not the most important in a relationship.

If the answer is no, that's okay. Do some soul-searching to see what kind of childhood you had. Try to work through any demons you have before engaging in a relationship. Know yourself. Seek therapy if it would help and try to become a better person who cares about others. And not pretend care, actual desire to help others, make others happy, etc.