[cauliflower99]

Note: These are just my personal opinions.

If I can list out the issues you have mentioned, just to get a picture first:

- Burnout in current job.

- No alternative jobs you want.

- No appetite for job hunting.

- House is gone.

- Wife is gone.

These are big problems - too big for someone to solve alone. First step is to find someone trusted who can support you. Whether it's a friend, family member or a professional. If they aren't available, a local support group. And if that isn't available, find a pro bono service online. You need someone checking in with you and helping you put a plan together over the next few months.

Next step is to prioritise the list. What MUST be fixed right away? Create a plan for each item.

After you have a plan, you potentially need some time to execute. Think about taking extended leave, a break for a few weeks. You need time and space to stop the spiral.

[dirtybirdnj]

> First step is to find someone trusted who can support you. Whether it's a friend, family member or a professional. If they aren't available, a local support group. And if that isn't available, find a pro bono service online. You need someone checking in with you and helping you put a plan together over the next few months.

If I could get this I wouldn't have made this post.

This is a reminder to everyone else that there are good, hardworking people falling through the cracks. Because nobody cares. You can do all the shit but if nobody cares about you, you will NEVER get your needs met. Ever. Once society sees that you have been rejected it's impossible to remove the black stain on your social standing. It doesn't matter if it's justified or reasonable, once the smear occurs you are done.

[schmookeeg]

"nobody cares" except if you've been rejected, then life has some sort of blackball effect on you?

I'm sorry but nonsense. You need to find someone to slap sense into you, you're too far down this dark hole.

You got the job to keep the wife who left anyway and apparently took the house. The job sucks. This seems like two parts of the equation that cancel one another out -- so dump the job. Work as a walmart greeter or something for a bit. go travel, backpacking, hosteling, hey, be one of those traveling beggars that I hate so much -- I bet they don't wake up every day and think about societal black marks on some imaginary scorecard. They think about bumming a ride to that badass glacier over yonder because they want to yell at it and listen to the echo.

the rut is deep, but you can walk right out and reinvent yourself. I hope you find a path to do so, even if it sucks for a bit. It sounds like it can only be better over yonder, wherever that is.