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This resonates with me.

Grew up in a very small house with two lower middle class parents. Frugal upbringing.

My wife and I out earn my parents by more than 10x. And so we can afford to do some things that I couldn’t as a kid like “ski weekend in Park City”

I’ve jealously looked around many times and frustrated myself with comparisons to wealthier people. They can do X and I can’t.

But as I’m getting older and raising kids, I’m continually reassessing the value of these high cost adventures. Am I happier, healthier, more refreshed, etc or is it instead my access to high-cost that fools me into feeling those ways?

I see the path forward similar to you. I’d like to help my kids however I can while not giving them a financial ticket for life. Want to do things that fulfill us without feeling too extravagant or costly.