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by freddie_mercury 482 days ago
The cost of raising a child is basically the socially acceptable (but untrue) excuse that people get to use.

It is pretty easy to look at millionaires and billionaires and see that money isn't what is holding down birthrates.

Just look at the millionaire CEO of your own company. Do they have 6 kids? They probably don't even have 4 kids.

And there have been studies (though I don't have any at hand) that sudden exogenous wealth (e.g. winning the lottery) doesn't really lead to people having more kids like they claim they wanted to.

Or do cross-country comparisons. The US birthrate is (very roughly) the same as countries that have (even adjusted for purchasing power parity) dramatically lower incomes.

Or look at low engagement levels of grandparents nowadays despite being dramatically richer than in previous generations.

It isn't (mainly) about money. It is just that it is okay to complain about money but not as okay to complain "I'd honestly rather do my hobbies than have another kid".

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>It is just that it is okay to complain about money but not as okay to complain "I'd honestly rather do my hobbies than have another kid".

I'm a loser and don't want to condemn my kids by virtue of creating them to be losers to. Money of course a part of being a loser. I say that here anonymously. In real life i of course say something general like everybody else about money, time, etc.

Cost of raising is not only about the money. It's also about your personal time, energy, and commitment. For some people having kids is rewarding, for others it's not.
It takes a village to raise a child, and modern society is not conducive to such an environment.
I never quite bought that "it takes a village" rhetoric.

But, at least, if you don't have a village and so it's all on you, that's a lot more work...

It's possible people aren't lying and instead that there are multiple issues where finance is just the immediate issue for many people.
>Just look at the millionaire CEO of your own company. Do they have 6 kids? They probably don't even have 4 kids.

Couldn’t this also be evidence that money is the issue? i.e. you can’t get to that millionaire CEO spot if you have a lot of kids you need to pay for. Instead the successful are those having fewer kids.

Another kid? What justification is there to have kids in the first place?