[rmc]

And should we also stop saying we've gotten "fucked" for similar reasons?

Sorta. Tis roughly the similar overtones of 'people-who-take-it-are-bad' (i.e. everyone who isn't a straight cis male), however it's not as graphic and not as tied to the actual imagery of receptive sex as the previous example.

Since you are the curator and sole arbiter of allowable phrases

What? No I'm not. Who said I was? Not me. Just because I call someone on something doesn't mean I'm the sole arbiter of things. How many articles on this site will lambaste some technology? Lots. Do we reply with "Shut up! you're not the sole arbiter of programming languages"? No that's not what happens here. One should talk about the merits of the complaint, rather than try some little deflection tactic.

[bbrtyth]

What about usage of the word "use"? Surely that implies interacting with another person only for sex and we should stop using it lest we offend.

I was not deflecting, that was my way of talking about the merits of the complaint, to whit, what you object to might be a tiny subset of someone else's objections, in which case who gets to decide? By telling that person not to use that terminology, you are saying you get to decide.

I think we've also seen plenty of people who think they are the sole arbiter of programming languages, and they get called out on it.

[rmc]

What about usage of the word "use"? Surely that implies interacting with another person only for sex

No, the word "use" means lots of things. To give you an idea, lots of people are OK with people saying "use" in polite, professional contexts, or day time TV, but lots of people would not be OK with "fuck" or "fisting with two hands" in professional contexts. There is a difference between them. If you cannot tell the difference, people might get annoyed at you in many situations.

we should stop using it lest we offend

It is a common retort from people who want to continue to say things that marginalise some minorities to claim that "It's polticial correctness gone mad!" or "you can't say anything anymore!". You've just done that, you're trying to imply that I would have a problem with the word "use" to further your strawman argument that "You can't say anything anymore lest you offend!". No-one's suggesting that there's anything wrong with "use". But there is something wrong with calling anyone who anal bad, or anyone who might engage in receptive sex (i.e. all non-straight-cis-males) bad.

[bbrtyth]

I'm not trying to imply you have a problem with the word "use", I am directly implying that there is some boundary beyond which someone will be offended and you will not be. At which point whose delicate sensibilities should we defer to?

I, for one, take exception that your category of people who enjoy receptive sex seems to be explicitly excluding straight males, such that you've used the exact same "i.e." qualifier twice. It is well within the realm of possibility that a straight male would ask his partner to stimulate his prostate during sex, but you categorically reject that. Are you going to correct your mistake and stop making generalizations? Maybe start using e.g. from now on?

My position is this; it is obvious that the original poster is not making some kind of blanket statement that all people who participate in anal sex are bad, but rather is stating that having a large object in your anus is uncomfortable and having an entity do it to you while you are unwilling is horrible. It's not a statement that was attempting to marginalize minority groups. You are the one who misconstrued it to mean all gay men are evil. Maybe that's why you find people's objections to your attempted control over the English language to be common.

Finally, you seem to be annoyed that I "created a strawman argument" out of you, but you do feel free to contort my statements into "it's political correctness gone mad!", and "you can't say anything anymore!" as well as directly stating that I am someone who "wants to continue to say things that marginalize some minorities". Is ad hominem less of a logical fallacy than making a so-called strawman argument? I'm not going to continue arguing with someone that has such intellectual dishonesty because it's just a waste of time. I am done here and I won't be reading any responses you post, so you can save yourself some time there.