The fact that you recognize this in yourself and in your kid already means you're aware enough to help guide him. Maybe the goal isn’t to ‘fix’ it but to help him explore in a way that doesn’t feel like a dead end.
Thanks. I guess I have the awareness but don't have the medicine. I feel that everything with kids is pretty random, and humans don't do well without formulas. Honestly, my whole life is pretty random lol.