On the other hand there is significant improvement in many people with depression at night. In the morning however life looks dark again. Some argue that this is an indicator for a different subtype of depression.
1) Take time away from devices and notifications. Potentially also turn your notifications off entirely and start checking only at scheduled times (or periods within your SLA if you're supporting people).
2) Try early mornings. I started getting up at 4:30, lifting, and meditating before ever looking at tech. In many cases I still look at my plan for the day before others work!
Ahh, having a family makes sense too. That sounds like a really important conversation to have though - making sure you and your wife each help each other have your own alone time.
When the sun rises, so do the number of requests.