[Balgair]

I'm so sorry to hear about what you are going through.

one small piece of advice from someone who had to do something similar with close family: Look into death doulas. Though your FiL is not dying, these people have a lot of resources and experience and may be able to assist you as life is so chaotic.

Again, so sorry to hear about your situation and what you're going through.

[cluckindan]

Counteradvice. Avoid seeking help from any kind of denominational spirit guides. Illusions do not relieve grief.

[Balgair]

Oh no.

No, death doulas aren't woo woo, at least the ones I've used.

They're more : Here's a the best brand of diapers, here' how to move a 200lbs man about in a bed to clean him, here's good local grief support groups, etc. In my experience, the paid home aids aren't really good at those things.