[m463]

lol, I imagine everyone in a relationship that posts here might have run into the "listen vs problem solve" scenario...

I definitely have tried to problem solve and things would escalate because the other person wanted me to listen.

But yeah, this is HN :)

[meowfly]

I'm aware of the "listen" versus "problem solving" scenario. I refuse to accept the framing. For some reason people have bought in to the idea that you can unload your emotions on someone and also create expectations on how they should respond.

If someone approaches you with a problem, they should expect you'll help them find a solution.