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by heresie-dabord 510 days ago
> My long term partner loves me conditionally

Sounds right, relationships require effort to stay healthy. It's not always an easy dance, as veterans of marriage will attest.

No healthy relationship should be a cage containing 2 or more martyrs. If people are accumulating resentment, it's time to seek help or dialogue or renegotiation.

That said, it's a mark of mature introspection and humility to be able to ask for help and support. It's also a mark of maturity and kindness to give help and support.