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by matrix87 510 days ago
> A child or partner is hospitalized or dies?

everyone processes grief differently

> You develop a potentially terminal illness?

I mean, I'm probably going to die anyway. At least if you're alone you don't have to worry about the trade off between extreme medical bills and a few more months of life vs leaving family more money

> A partner betrays you?

I don't really plan on marrying so I'd just replace them with someone else

In all of these situations, you can figure out ways to get through them alone

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> In all of these situations, you can figure out ways to get through them alone

That is not the point.

The point is that an emotional support network will help you in these situations and suggesting that someone build one is not "infantilizing" them but giving them valuable tools.

I could care less if you find one personally valuable or not (I don't have trouble imagining that there are people for which they are not), but I object to your generalizations and implication that men who pursue them are somehow lesser.