[em-bee]

you say not being able to meet people is not by choice because there are so few people that have similar interests. as others have pointed out, your interests may be to limited but the point i am trying to make here is that limiting your interests is your choice.

i can feel your plight. i too struggle to connect with people if they don't share my interests. but i learned to try to approach finding friends like finding a partner. i know that it is very unlikely that i'll find a partner that shares my interests, so i have to branch out and look for other things that may be interesting too.

you already looked into video games and DnD. but keep looking.

one thing that is important is to not give up to quickly. you will not connect to everyone right away.

what was wrong with the board game club, for example? the wrong people? the wrong games? try going there a few times, see if the games and the people change. but most importantly, be patient and stick through the awkwardness of joining a group where everyone already knows each other and you are meeting them for the first time.

re video games and DnD, you may be tired of it, but if you are new to a city, it may be the way to get to know some people and learn about other activities of interest. move around, try different things. sometimes it is serendipity. i visited a friend in one city, but then i became friends with the landlord that i rented from, and a whole new world opened up that my initial friend wasn't connected to at all. keep your eyes open.

[johnnyanmac]

>but i learned to try to approach finding friends like finding a partner.

Swipe right on 1000 friends and hope months later someone responds back? Only to get a "hi" and then when you reply you get blocked?

It can feel that way sometimes yea.

>what was wrong with the board game club, for example?

I just don't like board games. I even was working at a startup making a custom campaign, so I had to play test plenty of that as we as compare with some other kinds of games. Boss was clearly a very passionate DM, but I just never truly "clicked" into that role playing myself.

So I've tried and just accepted board games aren't for me.

>re video games and DnD, you may be tired of it, but if you are new to a city, it may be the way to get to know some people and learn about other activities of interest.

I'm shocked how little game meetups there are in my city. Seemed like there wee a decent amount pre-pandemic, but they got utterly wiped out when the world re-opened. I only see a semi-consistent one and it's monthly.

[em-bee]

I just don't like board games. I even was working at a startup making a custom campaign

sounds to me like you are talking about role playing, which is one kind of table top game, while board games in general are an entirely different kind of table top game. chess is a board game, risk, settlers of catan, that sort of thing. possibly even magic the gathering. basically anything that is not about role playing. a board game club would generally be about those, not about role playing.

the key point here is that while role playing may not be your thing, most board games have an entirely different dynamic, and if you haven't tried them yet, i recommend you take a look.