[skwee357]

This.

It reminds me of the average “indie hacker” mentality: just move to Bali and live off $2-3k.

The problem is that it just doesn’t work once you are past a certain age, and suddenly have “adult life”: parter, kids, aging parents.

I’d love to life a “little life”. Read books with my partner, drink coffee in the morning while watching the birds. The problem is that one small unlucky event, like being laid off, or someone you love getting sick, and it can all snowball into oblivion.

And the realistic thing to accept is that money solves a lot of problems. And in order to make enough of it, one should forgo the luxury if “little life” to some extent.

[riku_iki]

what prevents you from asking partner, kids, aging parents to live "little life" too?

> The problem is that one small unlucky event, like being laid off, or someone you love getting sick, and it can all snowball into oblivion.

that's why financial health would be to allocate 15% of your indie $2-3k to saving account to cover this unlucky event.

[skwee357]

Because they are their own individuals, and they have their own life based on their own experiences. And while I can suggest, or even influence a little, their life choices -- I can't command them to change themselves 180 degrees.

Sometimes I feel like we, as society, became so detached from each other and from reality. Maybe it's because of social networks that keep pumping up the idea that everyone can be rich by investing $5 a day instead of buying Starbucks, or that the path to financial freedom is as simple as "just buy a house and rent it for $5k a month"; or that people suddenly started to call randoms in Twitter their friends. But I feel like people lost the ability to be empathetic towards others. They simply are unable to see and accept that there are different people who were born, raised, and live under different set of rules that the ones they grew up under.

[riku_iki]

> Because they are their own individuals, and they have their own life based on their own experiences

it sounds like you need to make a choice to allow them to eat your life (spend your limited years of your life as race rat to satisfy their habits instead of "little life" if it is preference) or reject them.

> They simply are unable to see and accept that there are different people who were born, raised, and live under different set of rules that the ones they grew up under.

sorry, I don't understand how this claim(which I also don't understand why you put it here) connected to $5 starbucks and renting a home. Maybe you could expand?

[codeforafrica]

While I was trying to find a partner, at one point I realized that if I wanted to experience life in Asia or Africa, it would be a lot harder to do so if I got married before going there. Since I was still alone at the time I decided to postpone my search and move first.

Now I took my children to Africa precisely so they can see and understand that there are different people who were born, raised, and live under different conditions than the ones they themselves experienced so far.