The VA is obligated to follow the law as it relates to open records. Broadly speaking, America actively chooses to treat vets poorly. Call your Congressional rep (who directly controls policy that controls funding) versus taking your feelings out on your fellow citizen working for little or no pay to encourage government accountability as it relates to their legal obligations.
So you would prefer I sue the VA?! They tried to preserve my families' privacy and reduce risk to current heirs like me. No, doxxing the dead cause "letter of the law matters" for some stupid side project like this is far from commendable. I will bet those of us with a lot of family in there, especially recently deceased, will feel very different than you or the CEO of doxx the dead.