| > However, I always though that the more "correct" way to live, is in a traditional relationship. And I don't what to get into the philosophy of "Why". But that’s the crux of the issue. That is exactly what you have to discuss. What you call a “traditional” relationship is nothing more than what you saw when you were a child in your part of the world. There is nothing that makes that way of living more “correct” than any other. You’re just used to it. Had you seen any other model growing up, that’s what you would’ve thought to be correct. > We are in an "equal" relationship I don’t believe you are. I don’t even believe you honestly think you are. You use the word in quotes and couldn’t even finish the sentence without a “but”. > I want her to be a mom and Everything in there is you, you, you. What you want, what you think is right, I doesn’t acknowledge what she wants. Saying you don’t want her to give up her career doesn’t count, that is still focused on what you feel. She is not just your wife, she’s her own person with her own thoughts and feelings and her own value. Money isn’t everything, and this idea that being “the provider” somehow has more value is absolutely wrong. If you’re planning to have children but see it as her primary role to take care of them, you should just not have them at all. Kids are new humans. If you want them, care for them and be equally invested, don’t relegate your wife to the role of babysitter. Check Andrew Solomon’s “New Family Values” and “Far from the Tree” to reexamine your notions of what a loving equal family is. https://andrewsolomon.com/articles/newsletter-new-family-val... https://andrewsolomon.com/books/far-from-the-tree/ |