[reliablereason]

Sounds like people don't feel that you are adding things of value. Which might mean that you have low social value(ie people don't want to put in effort in to being your friend). Or it might mean that you are talking about things that people feel is irrelevant. Or maybe some combination of those things.

Since you are having this issue with your wife you should ask your wife, hopefully she might have the guts to tell you her real honest opinion on the matter.