[rnjailamba]

This is a tough phase. Children do fight hard to find themselves but they get done in by an authoritative and somewhat disingenuous system that puts them into a mimetic compliant attitude rather than the way they used to act when they were 4 or 5 years of age - their golden age of discovery.

My take is that children need more attention than ever when they've kind of disconnected from the world but the attention needs to be extremely competent as well as caring - a really tough combination.